A rape victim’s thoughts on the Confusedtree incident(s)

allixee:

TW: Rape, Pedophilia, Suicide


Okay, I’m going to start this off by telling my story first. My dad died when I was 5, and by the time I was 7 my mother had remarried. My stepfather started to rape me when I was 8. I remember the first time I was so scared and confused. I didn’t know what was going on or why, I just knew it hurt. Once he finished he told me if I told my mom or anyone else that he would kill us both. I was bleeding and I thought that meant I was going to die, so I just lied there crying. He continued doing this to me until I was 16. I thought I was pregnant because I had missed my period and been extremely nauseous, I knew I couldn’t hide it from my mom then and I hadn’t had sex with anyone else so I had to tell her. When I did she just got furious at me for lying about the only person whose made her happy since dad died, and kicked me out. I posted about this on my main blog before, but decided to do it on a sideblog since I got hate last time.


Back to the point - the Confusedtree/Josh incident is offensive and wrong on so many levels, not on his part though. I am seeing so many people in the tag calling him a “pedophile” and a “rapist” (?!??!?) when he is clearly neither. It was on fucking Skype, no it is not rape nor is it even slightly comparable. Especially since it was MUTUAL. Hes not a pedophile either. 16 is the age of consent in most places, including where he lived. So stop acting like he groomed an impressionable and naive 12 year old girl.


So many other girls are “bravely coming forward” about how he “sexually harassed” them as well by … liking their pictures?!?! One girl was 21 but had the audacity to say hes a pedophile for talking to her (she posted a text conversation, where SHE sexted him..) because she “looks young”. So if you look young you’re not mature enough to make your own decisions? Bitsy made videos for him pulling up her dress, posts talking about sex with him, she knew exactly what she was doing and he wasn’t wrong for letting her as she is old enough to make those decisions. It’s obvious other girls are jumping in for attention, I wouldn’t be surprised if most are lying. If you say “he liked my pic once..I guess that’s sexual harassment” you get a barrage of messages about how pretty you are and how people are sorry you had to experience that.


Anyone who disagrees gets labelled as one of his “deluded fanboys”. I have literally never heard of him before this, I just have common sense. I’ve seen people talking about how they’re glad he wants to commit suicide, how he deserves to die, and it’s just unacceptable. No one deserves that for fucking flirting online. The worst thing I’ve seen is people trying to message his family about how hes a pedophile and a rapist, and sending his nude pictures to them. Ironically, these are the same people complaining about how wrong it was because he sent her “unsolicited sexual pictures”. I don’t assume his family or friends asked for his nudes from you? What the fuck is wrong with you guys?


I hope you guys know you’re trivializing a real and important issue. This is so offensive to REAL victims of sexual abuse. I’m absolutely disgusted that the years of abuse I went through and am still coping through, are being compared to a 16 year old girl MUTUALLY flirting with a guy on fucking Skype, who asked if she wanted him to stop to which she literally replied “Not a bad thing! I’m not saying no.” I wish my rapist had cared when I begged for him to stop. Confusedtree apologized profusely when she confronted him about it the next day because he didn’t even know it was making her uncomfortable, and clearly would have stopped if she had simply said something.


Also, you’re all quite quick to call “VICTIM BLAMING!” on anyone who realizes this is bullshit, yet literally every single message I received was telling me how I deserved what happened to me because I disagreed with them. I’ve seen no real proof of any wrongdoing whatsoever, just mutual flirting between him and women more than old enough (most in fact were in their 20s..) to make their own decisions. If anyone has actual evidence of sexual harassment, I’d love to see it. Until that though, I’m glad tumblr is such a small percentage of people in the real world, because you people are vile hypocrites and the reason why so many actual victims aren’t taken seriously.


- Sincerely, a REAL victim of sexual abuse.